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Expert lists every single thing you should never do at a wedding

A UK wedding expert has waded in on the etiquette for guests to follow during this upcoming wedding season. Zoe Burke, has over a decade of experience in the industry and is the editor of Hitched.

Zoe regularly shares tips, advice and insider information for anyone who’s planning or going to a wedding. In a recent TikTok, the expert explained that as wedding season has begun, it’s important for guests to remember the do’s and don’ts of attending bashes.

She said: “I felt like it’s a good time to talk about the key things that wedding guests need to know and do at a wedding.” The wedding expert continued: “Rule number one, RSVP.

“Whether you’re attending the wedding or not, you need to RSVP and you need to do this as promptly as you can. It’s easier than ever to RSVP to a wedding today so there’s no excuse not to do it. So whether it’s by post, by WhatsApp, by wedding website, make sure you reply.

“Rule number two – only RSVP for and turn up with the people who are named on the wedding invitation. I literally can’t stress this enough, like you are not allowed to bring any guests with you if they are not named on your invitation, and it is so rude to ask.

“Number three – if it says no children on the invitations, that means no children, no exceptions. Not even for your kids, no.”

She continued: “Rule number four – put that white dress down. I know you look great in white, you really do, but it’s not the time. You have 364 other days of the year, 365 if it’s this year, to wear white, so don’t do it on this couple’s wedding day, no.

“Rule number five – stay out the photographers way. Don’t go blocking them to get a shot on your iPad or your iPhone or whatever, because guess what, it’s not gonna be as good as what they do and the couple are probably gonna really wanna see the photos that the photographers took that they paid for, rather than the blurry shots you snapped on your iPhone with other people’s heads in the way.”

Zoe’s video has been viewed more than 15k times. Viewers shared their thoughts on Zoe’s ‘non-negotiables’ and even suggested their own rules for guests in the replies.

Louise commented: “At this point I’m mildly sympathising with the person who said on their wedding website ‘if you haven’t RSVP’d by the deadline then sorry, you’re not coming’ (words to that effect).”

Clare T said: “Don’t make any pregnancy/engagement/new job announcements. And definitely don’t propose. It’s not about you,” while Nikita wrote: “11 days to go and have just had to tell 3 people it’s too late, they’ve had since September 22. We’ve also asked our officiant to state before I arrive to snap a selfie & put their phones away.”

Melliebobs replied: “Had a guest bring their bf (day & evening so extra meals to pay for) who we didn’t even know. didn’t even know she had a bf at the time! and one family member say they weren’t coming then did!”

Curly_Wurly_Girly wrote: “I get married in 1 month and I asked that guests don’t wear blue as I have my mum in blue cause she is my something blue, some people have ignored that and bought blue anyway.”

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